Yesterday Friday, March 4th Dakota had another doctor's appointment to have x-rays done and have his hip checked out. I wish I could say I have good news, but alas....I don't.
So instead of progressively moving forward and strengthening his hip, we are moving in reverse. It's getting stiffer and tighter as the days go by. He is just as weak as he was when he had surgery almost 5 months ago. He has been in physical therapy twice a week for the last two months and still, no improvement.
He was required to do his physical therapy exercises at home three times a week. When Dakota was out of surgery and able to move around and the physical therapy started (however many months ago that was - I am loosing track) I didn't have to fight with him to do his exercises at home and I didn't have to continually say, "Dakota do your exercises." over and over and over and over.
Lately, about the last two months to be exact, he gives the physical therapist a hard time and down right gets nasty with me about having to do them. Him and I have both ended up in tears over these silly (but not-so-silly) exercises. I would threaten to take things away and then when he still wouldn't do them, I would follow through and take away whatever it was that I said I was going to take. It didn't seem to matter the next time he was required to either do his physical therapy at home or with the therapist he would fight. It has become a viscous cycle and still no progress has come out of my constant nagging.
The problem with this is that the leg muscles in his right leg (abductor muscles) are extremely tight and therefore it pulls the femur inward which moves the ball joint further out of the socket (see right picture). If it continues to do this, the ball joint will be so far out of the socket again they will probably have to do surgery again. That socket protection is the only thing keeping the ball joint from collapsing. So you can see the importance of not letting it get this far.
The doctor has given Dakota two weeks to turn his attitude around. The doctor said that it is not "your mommy's fault" that this happened to you and that you have to do your exercises. "She loves you and is only trying to help" (maybe if Dakota hears it from someone else he'll believe it cause he sure doesn't believe me when I say it). He is required to do his exercises EVER DAY for the next two week no matter what and if he gives me any trouble then I am to call the doctor.
**If** I have to call the doctor in two weeks the doctor will order the physical therapist to inject a muscle relaxer in his abductor muscle and then put him in this cast called an A-brace (see left picture) and stick him back in a wheel chair for three weeks.
**If** his attitude changes and he does the exercises here at home when I say to and doesn't give me any grief about it then we can continue the physical therapy sessions twice a week and also every other day at home until our follow up appointment in two months.
Dakota will also start going to a child psychologist starting this week due to the loads of emotional stress he has been through. I hope it will help to release or at least figure out a way to cope with some of the anger of not being able to be a "normal" kid! I know it has to be hard for him :(
I will continue to work with him for the next two weeks and we will see how it goes from there. Hopefully I will NOT have to make a phone call to Dr. Sundberg and we won't have to go down the wheelchair road again, but if we do, I am sure God will give me and Dakota the strength to get through it together.
Saturday, March 5, 2011
Tuesday, March 1, 2011
Summing up February...
February seems to have flown by for me....I don't really know why cause it's not like I have done anything super exciting this month, but I can't believe March is just around the corner.
I kicked off the month by celebrating my birthday with my family. It was nice. My parents met up and took me and Dakota out to dinner at Olive Garden (I love the salad) and then we went back to my mom's house for cake, ice cream and presents. It was simple, but I enjoyed every moment of it. It was nice to spend the day I turned 28 with my family.
Dakota continued this whole month to go to physical therapy twice a week. On Tuesdays we have water therapy and on Thursdays we have land therapy. Oh how this is a struggle. Water therapy is a bit more fun then land therapy. Land therapy has brought many tears to Dakota's eyes. I think he is going through some emotional stuff right now with being so limited to activities, he's getting restless. Also, sick and tired of having to do his leg exercises which are SO important for his future strength. I end up being the bad guy by nagging him to do his exercises. I hate being the bad guy all the time. Dakota seems to act like I am a huge pain in his ass because of it. Things are changing with him. Some I am sure is because of the Perthes and all he has gone through in the last six months, but some of it I think may just be him getting older and growing up. He is slowly pulling away from me in a lot of ways. I am glad, but it mainly makes me sad.
I was lucky enough to have a friend of mine buy tickets for my birthday to go see Jeff Dunham live at the Target Center on February 13th. It was an amazing show and I liked all of it up until about the last 15 minutes when Jeff brought out a new puppet. I don't like the new puppet so much, but hey Peanut and Walter are the bomb :) I am glad I got to see him live. I bought Peanut shirts for me, my mom and Dakota. They loved them!
I spent Valentine's Day with Dakota. He is the love of my life so this year I decided that Valentine's Day didn't need to just be about a spouse or a bf/gf.....it could be about anyone you love and care about. I took Dakota out to dinner and then to the bookstore where he got this dragon paint kit (it's very cool). Then we went shopping to get him some new jeans because the kid has grown like a weed. He was prepared for a flood, that's for sure.
I continue to go to school, but things are tough for me right now and one of the classes requires that you dig into your life and reflect on things and I am really just not in the right place to do that. Things have been so crazy for me the last few years, I am just now trying to figure out how to deal with all that has happened in my life and find a way to let go and move on. I am doing the best I can right now with school, I am not able to put 110% into it this term, but I am learning to not be so hard on myself and that as long as I do the best I can, I am ok.
My car has had nothing but trouble last month and now again this month. I am driving a rental right now. A Nissan Versa. It's not a bad car, but I am used to being in a SUV. I feel like Fred Flintstone preparing for the foot acceleration.....it's just really low to the ground is all. My car should be fixed by the end of next week. So hopefully I will welcome March with my own set of wheels again. And hopefully this will be the last time my transmission needs fixing!
I kicked off the month by celebrating my birthday with my family. It was nice. My parents met up and took me and Dakota out to dinner at Olive Garden (I love the salad) and then we went back to my mom's house for cake, ice cream and presents. It was simple, but I enjoyed every moment of it. It was nice to spend the day I turned 28 with my family.
Dakota continued this whole month to go to physical therapy twice a week. On Tuesdays we have water therapy and on Thursdays we have land therapy. Oh how this is a struggle. Water therapy is a bit more fun then land therapy. Land therapy has brought many tears to Dakota's eyes. I think he is going through some emotional stuff right now with being so limited to activities, he's getting restless. Also, sick and tired of having to do his leg exercises which are SO important for his future strength. I end up being the bad guy by nagging him to do his exercises. I hate being the bad guy all the time. Dakota seems to act like I am a huge pain in his ass because of it. Things are changing with him. Some I am sure is because of the Perthes and all he has gone through in the last six months, but some of it I think may just be him getting older and growing up. He is slowly pulling away from me in a lot of ways. I am glad, but it mainly makes me sad.
I was lucky enough to have a friend of mine buy tickets for my birthday to go see Jeff Dunham live at the Target Center on February 13th. It was an amazing show and I liked all of it up until about the last 15 minutes when Jeff brought out a new puppet. I don't like the new puppet so much, but hey Peanut and Walter are the bomb :) I am glad I got to see him live. I bought Peanut shirts for me, my mom and Dakota. They loved them!
I spent Valentine's Day with Dakota. He is the love of my life so this year I decided that Valentine's Day didn't need to just be about a spouse or a bf/gf.....it could be about anyone you love and care about. I took Dakota out to dinner and then to the bookstore where he got this dragon paint kit (it's very cool). Then we went shopping to get him some new jeans because the kid has grown like a weed. He was prepared for a flood, that's for sure.
I continue to go to school, but things are tough for me right now and one of the classes requires that you dig into your life and reflect on things and I am really just not in the right place to do that. Things have been so crazy for me the last few years, I am just now trying to figure out how to deal with all that has happened in my life and find a way to let go and move on. I am doing the best I can right now with school, I am not able to put 110% into it this term, but I am learning to not be so hard on myself and that as long as I do the best I can, I am ok.
My car has had nothing but trouble last month and now again this month. I am driving a rental right now. A Nissan Versa. It's not a bad car, but I am used to being in a SUV. I feel like Fred Flintstone preparing for the foot acceleration.....it's just really low to the ground is all. My car should be fixed by the end of next week. So hopefully I will welcome March with my own set of wheels again. And hopefully this will be the last time my transmission needs fixing!
Oreo is now almost 11 months old and got neutered this month, so no babies for him! He continues to be a wonderful addition to our family. My mom says I treat him more like a child than a dog and I suppose I do, but I am okay with that. He follows me around and cuddles with me and gives me lots of kisses. I told my mom that I didn't need a man in my life because I have a wonderful child and my very dedicated puppy. For now that is all I need!
Most recently I have experienced the joys (huge exaggeration) of having a concussion. On Thursday night after I had picked Oreo up from having his surgery, I was getting ready for bed and thought since it was hard for Oreo to get up and down the stairs that I would carry him down to bed. I slipped on the first step (I think I may have over stepped and caught the edge of the stair) and fell down all seven steps with with 20 pound dog in my arms. Don't worry the dog is fine, I put him down and he started wagging his tail. Big fun for him. After not being able to move for a good couple minutes, my mother who had come running to help me, helped me up. I didn't feel any initial pain until the middle of the night. I got a slight headache during the night and woke up a few times because of it, but just thought that since I had hit my head really hard on the stairs I shouldn't be surprised to have a headache. When I woke up the next day I still had the headache and continued to have it all day. I took headache medicine, which didn't help at all, and then when the pain started to get worse I decided it was time to go in to the clinic. The doctor took x-rays of my spine since I not only hit my head but slide down every step on my back. Luckily there wasn't any slipped discs or fractures. I do however have a concussion. I was given a shot in my butt at the clinic to help with the pain in my neck and head and about an hour or so later almost all my pain was gone. I have continued to take OTC pain medicine and have tried to take it easy, but haven't gotten much rest. I know I need to in order for my body to heal itself, but there is so much stuff to be done around the house, it's hard to just sleep in the middle of the day!
So summing up my month, I would have to say in one word......overwhelming!
A quick peek at next month:
~ Dakota has a doctor's appointment in the beginning of the month for more x-rays and more instructions.
~Dakota also turns nine years old in the beginning of the month (I can't believe my baby is almost 9 - how crazy is that)
~ And I finish up with classes for this term and also sign up for new classes for next term
Stay posted for Summing up March ;)
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